Wednesday, 21 March 2012

Where did the last 60 years go?

I got my hair cut last week.
I do it every year or two, going from long to short, a major change.
This time it's a very short concave bob. A bit 80's esque. And i love it, it's very me.

But yesterday i was catapulted back about 60 years.
I don't expect everybody, or anybody in fact, to love it like i do. (even though it is a bit fab). But in my 40's i didn't expect one comment to slap me square in my feminist face.

"What does your husband think? I bet he prefers it long. My husband would divorce me if i cut my hair short. Don't get me wrong, i think it's nice."

"Who gives a shit what my husband thinks." (and your husband should divorce you for using his brain instead of your own in conversations he is not involved in.)

I said the first part, not the second to her.

Then all of a sudden i found myself wondering whether it was her or me that had been living in a cave my entire life. Is she oblivious to the equality of the sexes and freedom of expression or am i blind to the struggle to keep these issues relevant.

Maybe it isn't a question of feminism, maybe it is just me.
I have always just done what i want, when i want, when it comes to the way i express myself. I don't feel a need to consult with anyone else on that front, and i encourage others to do the same.

Isn't that what so many have struggled for, for so many years. So that i don't have to worry/think about that. So that being myself is a given.

Maybe it's time i stopped sitting back and enjoying the achievements of my bra burning sisters and get back in the fight, because this week i learned that it is far from over.


  1. whaaaaaaaat? she said that? what a nincompoop!

    Can't wait to check out the new do!

  2. I'm glad i'm not the only one gob smacked by her comment. Guess i won't be asking her to join me if i decide to do the World's Greatest Shave next year.

  3. What the?!

    Who goes to the hair dresser and thinks "What will my husband think?"... AND then if they do, allow it to affect their decision?


    1. They are out there to varying degrees. She is just a standout.

  4. Add me to the list of shocked peeps! I'd have been speechless if someone said that me ... and that is something!

    1. I was almost speechless, but not quite. For me to be speechless i would have to be struck by lightning. When i see her now i give her 'that look', she knows i do not approve.